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  Call from my JW brother that I have not heard from in 5 yrs

  by troubled mind in

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  early this morning i get a phone call from my jw brother i have not heard from in 5 yrs .the first thought in my head was someone has died .

  so i answer cautiously ......hi is everything okay ?

  he just starts talking as if we had always been in contact.

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  I stopped by and talked to my Dad today ,and his response was ," Well sounds like he fulfilled one of his AA steps ! "
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  Call from my JW brother that I have not heard from in 5 yrs

  by troubled mind in

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  early this morning i get a phone call from my jw brother i have not heard from in 5 yrs .the first thought in my head was someone has died .

  so i answer cautiously ......hi is everything okay ?

  he just starts talking as if we had always been in contact.

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  troubled mind

  Early this morning I get a phone call from my JW brother I have not heard from in 5 yrs .The first thought in my head was someone has died . So I answer cautiously ......HI IS EVERYTHING OKAY ? He just starts talking as if we had always been in contact. First he apologizes ....well sort of ...for not having contact in so long ( then he adds well it really is both of our faults ....okay) . He says he doesn't want it to be like that anymore ,and I say well great me neither ,I am happy he called , and all the past is water under the bridge . He tells me he is now sober one year ,again I tell him that is great ! I also tell him our older brother would love to hear from him too !

  All of the sudden his cult personality kicks in full force ...."OH you know I can't have a relationship with you guys ,I I just wanted to touch base " " You grew up a witness you KNOW what the Biblke says !"

  I told him we don't care how he chooses to worship ,we just want to be a family . But then he was just going to continue on spouting BS so i said yeah thanks for calling bye ....

  This pissed me off so bad this morning . So no relationship just contact when he feels guilty enough to call .

  Nice that he can quote scripture to back shunning ,but completely block out the simple command to LOVE .
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  Want to know why people accept evolution ?

  by snare&racket in

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  do you have questions about or want to understand evolution?

  it is a difficult concept to communicate and so if it is not explained well , it is understandable that we would dismiss it.. i sincerely want to talk with people who want to learn more or see what all the fuss is about.

  we are all learning and increasing our knowledge all the time and it is good to go over facts with critical eye.. evolution we can discuss, looking at the foundational facts and evidence, one at a time for you to go and check, agree or disagree with and return.. no pressure to accept it, you can decide for yourself, also no mocking etc of what you have to say.. .

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  I love Science ,and look forward to reading this thread . Lots to learn over again .
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  When a Jehovah's Witness asks "When are you coming back to the Truth"

  by Watchtower-Free in

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  apostate & ex-jehovalarious meme collection.

  https://www.facebook.com/groups/jwmeme/.

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  I have said, " And which truth would that happen to be ? Would it be the 'truth' i was taught as a child and preached for years ? Or the new truth they are teaching now ? ....No thanks I am happy now ,why would I go back to something that only caused me to feel bad about myself and made me unhappy ?"

  I have said this to an Elder before, and he didn't have much more to say to me after that ......
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  My best friend died.

  by Decided in

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  I am very sorry ...
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  Doctor affirms the fact that JW religion was a massive strain on my life

  by confusedandalone in

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  it has been over a year since i offically stopped caring about and going to jw meetings.

  prioor to this time i had tons of responsibility that drained every once of time i had.

  like any father i had family matters to attend to.

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  troubled mind

  I am so Happy for you !!! After I left I too was shocked at times to just have waves of happiness roll over me ,so glad you found out while you and your family are still so young . ENJOY !
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  A medical question.

  by quellycatface in

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  i have been having pain in my left hip for around 4 years.

  got worse this winter.

  hurts at night, after walking and periods of inactivity.

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  troubled mind

  My husband had pain in his hip,and after all the testing found out it was refered pain from lower back area which is the actual problem . The discs in his lower back are wearing down and causing pressure on nerves which in turn refers to pain in hip and sometimes numbness in his feet .
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  I have an honest question!

  by FL_Panthers in

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  it's with regards to disfellowshipping.. is disfellowshipping a legal procedure?

  like is there something i can use to prevent this from happening to me if it does happen.. no jokes about me being a bad little boy.

  i need honest answers to this.

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  troubled mind

  FL Panther , When you are raised in the religion of Jehovah's Witnesses most of the time it is a very sheltered way of growing up . Do yourself a favor and begin reading ,and learning all you can about life . Prepare yourself for adult hood ,for being on your own .Read self help kind of books on how to be successful in life .Get advice from respected teachers or other adults (maybe someone you work with ) in your life . Educate yourself !!

  You are a young adult looking to have your own life and making your own decisions .Thinking independently is frowned upon in the Organization ,why do you think that is ? They use to preach all the time not to listen to our own hearts because of the scripture that says "the heart is treacherous who can know it " ,but as a grown adult I can tell you that advice was WRONG ! Living a life not true to oneself is no life at all . Listen to your conscience ,follow what your gut or heart 'tells' you . Because if you repress those leanings it turns to anxiety and depression . Life is very short ,it should be lived to the fullest doing what makes you the most happy ,and brings joy to others . Now is YOUR time to find out what that means to you .

  Please don't waste so much time worrying about what the Elders will or won't do .If you are working and are outof school make a plan to move out on your own .Get a roommate if that helps with the bills . There were good things you learned as a Witness (you said) so take the good with you as you grow . So many young ones have felt so repressed that they leave and get into things that really do cause them heartache ,but that does not have to be you .

  It is not wrong to want to grow up away from your family and to stand on your own . Best Wishes to you !
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  Shared some TTATT with my wife and now she wants us to have a weekly personal bible study

  by suavojr in

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  here is the situation.... a young 19 year old in our congo had a fallout with his parents because of all the restrictions and jw dogma and moved out of the house last wednesday.. to make the story short, the parents went running to the elders and what was the comfort?.

  coe said: i saw that coming!

  your son never reached out to get baptized.. then the other elder said: don't worry, you still have one left that will be saved.

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  troubled mind

  Can you and your wife offer to be a friend to the 19 yr old ? Reaching out not to be judgemental ,but just caring friends ? It could be beneficial for your wife if she sees how much better it feels to be just a normal kind person than one that must follow Watchtower policy .

  I was raised as a Jehovah's Witness for 40 yrs . What helped open my eyes was seeing how the organization DID NOT reflect the message Jesus was promoting . Studying 'The Greatest Man " book at our book study started me thinking how much attention was drawn away from Jesus ,and to the GB.

  About this same time a circumstance arose in our hall with an 18 yr old girl that needed some help . I found out then that the 'brothers' had no idea how to apply the 'good samaritian ' lesson from the Bible ,all they could do was parrot 'Society' guidelines that we should be more involved in the preaching work than 'social' work . This was the beginning of the end for me . When you personally witness how cold ,and unloving the organization truly can be it is a slap to the face . It happens all the time ,but goes unnoticed until it personally affects someone close to you . The Elder body is more about finding fault than helping out ....this happens every where not just your hall !

  Keep focusing your wife on how this situation could be handled better by just showing love .

  When I quit attending I read Romans ,and Acts without the Watchtower influence . I also listened to a Minister give a discourse on those books of the Bible ,and I was touched . Love ,and Grace were explained in a way I had never been taught all those years as a Witness .

  Over time I have come to my own conclusions about God,religion,and the Bible . Which are far removed from where I began .

  Best wishes to you and your situation .
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  Ex-Jehovah's Witnesses Wisconsin and Midwest

  by Watchtower-Free in

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  so who's from wisconsin and the midwest usa.

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  Do we have to stick to some list of approved Hotels ??